Why I only Use Twitter and Instagram

If you watch my videos on YouTube or listen to my podcast you’ll know that even though I have multiple social media accounts the only 2 I really use are Instagram and Twitter. To be honest it’s more of a preference thing but it’s also about other factors.
 
A common misconception is that you have to be on every social media platform there is. Though that may be true to an extent I believe that what’s more important is to utilize what social media platforms you are on to its full potential. Sorta like a zone defense approach vs. a shotgun approach. Let me explain a little more in depth.
 
 
The point of my social media accounts is mostly for business and sharing my personal journey as an entrepreneur. My accounts have purpose driven goals behind them, it’s just just a personal account. I use social media differently from the average person. That being said, I wanted to be realistic with how I can achieve social media goals. One of those ways is consistency. I know that the main way to be consistent on social media is to actually enjoy using the platform. If you don’t open the app every day, scratch that – multiple times a day, then you probably won’t make much of a dent.
 
It’s crazy that the above statement is our reality, but it’s true. We see so much information flash before our eyes on a daily basis that it’s really hard to fully absorb any of it. Nowadays people are use to quick 1 minute/to-the-point type content. What that means for those trying to grow their social media platforms is you’ve got to be ready to post, post often, and add value every time you post. What do I mean by “add value?”The goal is sharing; which should be the goal of every social media account regardless if it’s business or personal. By posting, how are you going to enrich your followers lives? There is a difference between sharing and promoting. The more you share, the more you give, the more true to yourself, the more value you give to your followers. Trust me, it works.
 
Now to the big question, why only Twitter and Instagram?
 
I mainly use Instagram and Twitter for social media because I truly enjoy and use these 2 platforms. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a Facebook, LinkedIn, and SnapChat account. I just don’t really use them, which means I also don’t promote them. I do, however, claim my usernames/accounts on new platforms for sake of consistency. That way if I decide to use it in the future, I have no trouble getting the “JustKissa” username I have for most of my social media accounts. 
 
Also, I don’t use all my accounts the same way. I strategically chose these 2 platforms for a reason, mainly being that they’re very different.
 
As much as possible I try to create unique content for each platform. I’m not really big on the idea of copying the same content onto all platforms (but I do admittedly still do this on some platforms that I don’t use often. I need to make it a point to stop lol!) The good thing is Twitter and Instagram are very different at its most basic function. I mainly use Twitter to share random thoughts and written posts and I use Instagram for photo and video based posts. Even if I post the same topic on each platform I won’t just copy and paste. For example, if I post a video of some family photos I put up on Instagram Stories I won’t just copy and paste the caption onto Twitter. I’ll share the same topic on Twitter but with a different approach like a photo or write about the meaning of the family photos. Ya feel me?
 
No matter what social media platforms you use, maybe you use a few or maybe you use all of them, my one piece of advice is to be consistent. Make it part of your day, show people what you’re up to, and don’t be afraid to be authentically yourself. You don’t need to broadcast everything about your life, I don’t. I’m actually a very private person. But the idea of social media is exactly that – to socialize on media. Create conversations and share with your audience; maintain that line of communication. Keep it open so they feel like you’re there for them and they can relate to you.
 
So if you haven’t already, let’s talk! Let’s socialize! Follow me on Instagram and Twitter 🙂
 
xoxo,

July Goals Check In

I seriously can’t believe I’m writing this post already. Just like that half of my birthday month has come and gone. WTF?!

July 16th Selfie against our signature purple wall. No make up, just me 🙂

As I mentioned in my July Goal Setting post, my focus for this month has been on self care. A positive body image and mindset was on the top of my list, even if that meant putting my work and business secondary. You guys don’t know how hard this is for me!

I’m so grateful for the wonderful friends and family that I have in my life. Whether it’s someone I see often or good friends that I see every once in a while, I value them all. They’re amazing and remembered me on my bday, most of them asking what I was doing to celebrate. I replied with a “absolutely nothing” and they were all happy for me! Lol 😂 They know how much I work and know me well enough to know that rest is exactly what I needed. It was glorious guys! I didn’t think I needed it, I actually had every intention to come in to work that day. But Charlie urged me to take the day off. It was a hot day so I stayed home, caught up on my TV shows, ate fried chicken, and took a nap. Best birthday ever!

Just some of the amazing people I have in my life <3 SO SO grateful for them

As far as goal setting goes, I think I’m doing pretty well.

My plants that I bought and mentioned in my June post are still alive! It makes me so happy that they’re doing well. I bought a rosemary plant (I’ve killed a rosemary plant in the past) and I’m determined to keep it alive. It says on patio in our back yard since the directions say it needs 6 hours of direct sunlight. Because of the heatwave I think I need to water it more, though.

Skincare has been a big thing for me. I’ve never been one to take care of my skin growing up, I was lucky enough to not have to deal with acne. As I transitioned into my 30s skincare has become a priority of mine. Maintaining healthy skin not just on my face but my entire body has been something I’ve made part of my routine. Dry brushing, cleansing, moisturizing, exfoliating, masks, the whole 9. All of it, even the daily maintenance things, have become a treat for me.

One of my goals has also been to find gratitude in every day. I’ve made a section in my bullet journal dedicated to listing at least 1 thing I’m grateful for every day.

Growing my blog was a general goal I had for this month. Ever since I did the 30 Day Blogging Challenge I found blogging to be extremely therapeutic. The focus of “growing” my blog isn’t to necessarily grow my readership but to just grow its purpose and meaning for me. I realized how much I love writing and how valuable it has been to have a log of my life and things I’ve experienced for the past 11 years or blogging. Consistency hasn’t been the best because it’s a special month and resting is important for self care. But finding my stride in how I want to further blog in the future is starting to take shape.

Spending time with Charlie, friends, and family has also been on my list. This goes along with prioritizing my personal life over work because in the end this is what truly matters.

Improve self and do something fun. I think in my head this basically means to spend a little on something I wouldn’t normally, something I’d consider a “luxury.” Like going to the driving range, spend the morning reading a book on the beach, buy a book, get a hair cut…that kind of thing. This definitely contributes to a healthy mind.

July has been quite the month, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Except maybe cooler weather lol! 😂

xoxo,

Backyard Renovation

OMG guys, I can’t believe how long it took for us to finish this project! What we thought would turn into a 2-3 month project turned into a year! We started on July 13, 2017 and finished the project on June 11, 2018. Granted, life and work definitely got in the way. We could’ve finished this project way sooner if it weren’t for work and stuff.
 
Before – Lots of land, no landscaping
 
When we bought our house the front and back yards weren’t landscaped. Our ultimate goal is to be able to use more of our yard since we have so much square footage back there. So the first project was to create an area where we could put our outdoor chairs and tables. Kinda extend our covered patio so we could BBQ, have outdoor dinners, use our fire pit, etc. As first time homeowners we knew this would be a huge undertaking for us. It was going to be our first big investment into our home. Since It was kind of overwhelming we didn’t really know where to start. We didn’t even know how much to budget but thought about $3000 might be reasonable. We contacted a few landscapers to give us an estimate but it was way out of our budget so we decided to just slowly work on it ourselves. It was so rewarding to finish but damn, it was so hard! No regrets, though.
 
Our first goal was to decide how big we wanted the space. Our backyard is flat land with no trees or anything to abstruct/work around so we had a blank canvas to work with. It is also a rectangle so it was really easy to dissect the yard into. We decided to go with a 725 sq. ft. space for what we called the “patio extension.” I did extensive research, went online, watched YouTube videos, read blogs, and went shopping at Lowe’s and Home Depot to start to create a realistic budget.
 
Let’s start digging!
 
Once we decided on the dimensions we got to digging! This was the hardest part, it’s really labor intensive and took time to make sure the slope of the land was going away from the house for rain fall. You don’t want excess water to pool or go toward the house. That can lead to foundation issues down the line. We started with 4 inches closest to our covered patio and went down to 6 inches as we went farther away from the house. This is what took us over a year to do lol!
Finished “pit”
 
Once we finished digging (a year later) we wet the soil to help it settle a little and sprayed it with weed killer. A few days later we laid down our weed barrier, put in some landscape edging around the perimeter, and went to order our rock. At first weren’t sure what we were going to use for the patio extension but obviously price was a factor. We were thinking about doing concrete, stepping stone with rock or grass in between, brick, or rock. We decided to go with rock since it was the most affordable option and the most versatile. We could always add stepping stone in the future if we wanted to. 
Weed barrier down
 
There’s a great family owned building materials company about a mile from our house, Jacobi Building Materials. We went there, told them what we wanted, and everything was spelled out and really simple. They asked for the dimensions, they told us how much weed barrier we’d need, how much gravel, and they were right on the money. We hardly had any waste! Plus, they deliver! If you live in the San Fernando Valley area, I highly recommend seeing them.
 
The rock was delivered at 7 am sharp and we got to work right away. Charlie and I moved all the rock from our driveway into the pit we dug in 6 hours. It was just us, 2 shovels, a wheelbarrow, and lots of water!
Finished! Look at that cute pup enjoying her new patio
 
All in all we spent a total of about $800, WAY LESS than our expected $3000!! The $800 included shovels, a wheelbarrow, a tamper, the weed barrier, weed killer, the edging, gravel, and delivery.
 
View number 2
 
In hindsight there are a few things I would’ve done differently:
  1. I would’ve dug 2 inches and sloped to 4 inches instead of 4 inches to 6 inches. It really wasn’t necessary to go that deep and we probably would’ve spent a little less on the rock.
  2. We should’ve done this in the fall or winter, it was so hot most of the days we worked on it and I got such a bad tan!
  3. Because it took us so long to dig the pit weeds and grass began to grow where we previously dug. It took extra time to remove and kill what was growing in that area. Next time I’d make sure that we could consistently work on the project so we don’t create extra work for ourselves.
  4. We made the mistake of not creating a straight line to follow when we were digging so our patio extension is a bit squiggly lol! We’re going to cover it up eventually but it still bugs me! We should’ve either spray painted the perimeter, used wood for our edging so it would be pretty straight from the beginning, or put stakes at the corners and tied rope to keep the lines straight.
 
Honestly, if I could do it over and had the money to pay someone I think I would still do it myself. The sense accomplishment and pride I feel for my home after finishing this project is invaluable. I got out there, sit on the patio, and stare out into the yard for no reason. I rarely ever went out there before this. Now I have breakfast outside, we have friends over and eat dinner back there. Even though the yard still has a long way to go (we still have so many different sections to work on) I love being out there and get to enjoy the space!
 
xoxo,