Lately and June Goal Setting

You know when reality just smacks you in the face out of nowhere? Yeah, that happened to me on Monday.

Let me start by saying this year so far has been quite the whirlwind! So much to be grateful for, so many things that have brought me back down to reality. I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs and it’s only May. All in all I have to say I’m blessed and I know it. I’m thankful beyond belief. I have a loving husband, wonderful family, great friends, and thriving businesses. What more could a girl ask for?

But Monday came, and I feel like I got punched in the gut with negativity. The cause was one of the things that has held me back my whole life – ME. My need for constant progress, my need to be the solution, and my habit not taking care of myself.

You see, on Monday I realized that I had all these wonderful people and all these wonderful things. I have a relationship with God that has far surpassed anything that I ever thought I could have. But I still felt like there was something missing and I figured it out. It was self acceptance. Not only self acceptance but self love. The same love I have for God, my family, and my friends is the love that I wished I would show myself. I want to be able to show myself grace.

But I don’t.

Over time, I’ve just grown to resent myself and found myself unworthy. And that there lies the problem. It has always been the problem. I have been the problem.

On Tuesday, I caught something on Twitter or Instagram, can’t remember where or who exactly TBH. But it was the answer I needed to take 1 step toward self acceptance.

Keep your head down and do the work.

We’re living in a time where we have so many options and so much information at our finger tips. Lots of us feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. But I firmly believe that if I wasn’t being fed so much information I wouldn’t be as distracted. I’d be able to focus more on the things that help me improve, be better, be more intentional – the things that matter.

Starting in the month of June I’m going to take it 1 day at a time. My goal is to start creating habits that contribute to a better me – spiritually, mentally, and physically. I want to just focus, keep my head down, mind my own business, and put in the work. I want to be able to love myself and show myself some grace. I want to feel worthy of God’s love, the love of my friends and family, and my own love. God already says I’m worthy, why don’t I treat myself like I am?

So cheers to June! I’m excited to slowly chip away at the things that are eating me up inside.

xoxo,

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Lately

Things have been crazy these past few weeks.

I feel like every time I write one of these “Lately” posts that’s the first sentence that I always lead with. SMH.

But they have been busy lol

Charlie and I have been busy with a home project and working on yard maintenance. It rarely ever rains in LA so our “grass” never really grows. And yeah, I put “grass” cuz it’s not really grass. Since we’ve had to conserve water we just decided to stop watering our “grass” all together. But since it’s been raining a lot this winter our “grass” decided to grow. If you saw my instagram story a couple weeks back the height of the grass was so tall you couldn’t even see my dogs when they’d run through it. Since then we’ve been trying to do our best to do yard work every week so it’s easier to maintain. #adulting am I right?

Aside from a little house maintenance I’ve been chipping away at my business projects.

CO Creative Cartel has the Jackalope Fair coming up and we’re using this as an  opportunity to work on our product line. We’ve got a few new products we’re currently sourcing and hopefully we’ll be able to debut those soon! We’ve also applied to a few other Spring 2017 craft shows to gain local brand awareness and to get direct customer feedback on our products. All of this is to prepare ourselves for our biggest event of the year, Las Vegas Market coming up in August. I’m scheming up some fun things and am really excited to make my wholesale trade show debut. It’s been a long time coming, over 5 years – I can’t believe it! But the time has finally arrived, we’re making it happen this year and I’m glad I didn’t rush into it. My patience was tested over and over but I’m more prepared than I ever would have been in the past.

A sneak peek into some fun things coming soon 🙂

Ninong’s is undergoing a big transition this year, in a million different ways. I always tell people that this business has been my testimony of faith as well as entrepreneurship. I firmly believe that Ninong’s has been the reason I have learned and grown so much as an entrepreneur and as a Christian. We’ve recently changed our FOH (front of house) operations to sit down service and it’s been quite the challenge to change the way we’ve been doing things for 8 years. But this was just another decision we made to help us grow, do what is best for our customers, and try to create a better experience. We’re finally beginning to adjust and our operation is becoming a bit smoother. We’re still a long way and we will never be perfect but I can see how this decision was a good choice for our business.

I guess that’s the way things are when you’re an entrepreneur. You try to collect data, observe your customer base, take in constrictive critique, and make decisions hoping for the best. What sucks is you’ll never know for sure if that was the right decision until you try it, implement it, and give it time. But you have to jump in fully and trust that you made the decision for a reason, the right reason.

Because of this, my blog got put on the back burner. 

 

But I decided that it was okay. 

Normally, I’d be stricken with guilt over not posting. I’d rack my brain about how I can make it up to the few readers I have. I’d tell myself my blog will never grow if I don’t take it seriously. But honestly, I do! lol. I take my blog very seriously and so this time I said NO. No to feeling guilty and no to making myself think that I don’t work hard enough. Because I do work hard, it’s just…priorities. 😉

xoxo,

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March Goal Setting

March is creeping up on me and that means spring is almost here. There are some things that are great about spring! Some people think of spring as a fresh start (even though I think anytime is a good time to start), the weather starts to warm up a little bit, beautiful flowers start to bloom, and the leaves start to turn green again. I think the only thing I hate about the spring is my allergy problem haha.

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I’ve been looking back on my 2017 goals this past week in Evernote. I revisited the goals I wrote down for myself and just let it marinade for a little while so I can evaluate things I want to work on, change, and keep doing.

  1. Health and Fitness: I need to start going to the gym consistently and continue on improving my dietary choices. 
  2. Work: Ninong’s is doing well, we are continuing to grow and change. I’m planning a huge trade show for CO Creative Cartel in the summer and I need to start planning. Real estate had been busier than expected, we closed 2 transactions in the first quarter and have 3 potential clients we can possibly in the 2nd quarter. I never thought this would be something that I would ever do, especially without my mom. But God has a way of showing you what His plans are for you. 🙂 The Good the Bad the Foodie has started and we’re filming on a consistent basis. We’ve got more videos coming your way so if you haven’t subscribed to our YouTube channel yet make sure you do so you don’t skip a beat!
  3. Home: Charlie and I have been organizing little by little and tackling projects every couple weeks. Working 6 days a week (sometimes 7) makes it really hard to keep your house clean. I’ve been taking every Monday to clean and doing little by little every day after work to make it more manageable.
  4. Personal Growth: I have really bad self confidence issues and one day I woke up and decided I wanted to start taking care of my skin (more on this later). I’ve never really had any issues with my skin but I definitely didn’t want to start having problems as an adult. I’ve been doing it for a little over a month and not only has my skin felt really soft and healthy but it has also given me a little bit of confidence. Taking care of myself has helped me to treat myself with respect and has mentally given me some self worth! On top of that I found an accountability partner in my good friend and fellow entrepreneur Heather, I started up bible study with my friends again, and I plan on traveling more this year.

So this month, I plan on being more consistent with the new things I started and turn them into healthy habits. The idea of positive reinforcement has been a huge factor in my progress not just in my personal habits and confidence but also in my productivity. So I want to continue to do things that are healthy for my body and mind which will be my focus for this month.

Happy planning guys! What are you goals for the month of March?

Xoxo,

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